In this ever revolving world of emotions there are so many ups and downs to the cycle. The highs are memorable and the downs are much more memorable mainly because they leave it's mark on your memory for ever.
What am I talking about well it is our kids. One of the bad things about having kids is they are a package deal. You begin to realize this when they become teenagers and you see the many lows they bestow up on you. There is no fine print in the owners manual when they are delivered and you set out to raise them.
There should be an owners manual with these kids. My kids are putting so much strain on us right now. To many bad periods are overshadowing the good times.
At one point they make you so proud you just cannot contain it and then these times of tribulation you just stand with no idea how to handle any of this. Friday was a very hard day were my kids are concerned. You get so angry because of their behavior but really what can you do. You beat them with in inches of their life but what good would that do and besides that is just not me.
I have come to the realization being a parent is much like being a foreman on the job. You are in charge of your workers and you call the shots but if one of the workers wants to use his brain and work out a way to make the job easier and safer you let him roll with it. You want to be friends with them but you cannot be a foreman and a friend at the same time. After hours you can hang out some but your roll has to be defined.
So I have to be the bad guy where my kids are concerned, and I cannot be a buddy at the same time. I have to enforce the rules and be hated for it. Its a thankless job sometimes and it is not fun. I have been called everything under the sun lately from one of my kids. I am tired and just plain fed up with the whole situation.
I laid in bed last night thinking about things and it really depresses me to think my own flesh and blood hate me so much. There was a time when I was very proud of him and that gets distorted during these times. He is growing up and struggling to be independent but has no clue how to do it. I understand some what were he is coming from but must learn abusing the ones who can help him the most are not the ones you should hate the most.
All of this takes its toll on our emotions as the cycle keeps on going. We have been threw this before but we are at the age where we just want to relax and be happy but oh no it is not going to happen yet. Even when the move out their problems some how become yours also. Its a crazy circle.
But like I said they are a package deal, and we love them anyways and are always here when the need us.
Have a great day and thanks for reading
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4 comments:
hang in there friend they finely grow up and have kids of their own.its called devine restatution!!!
then you can sit back and say to your self.thanks Lord now he knows what it was like putting up with him...
kids can be a real pain.they try so hard to grow up too fast now.they dont know how to cause the schools tell you that all the older people are dumb or old fashioned or sinil.
my grand son came home and said some thing the other day that someone had said.
I told him to go back for me and tell the person "I" said he needed to get his head out of his a--!!!
he said grandma I cant do that!!!I said tell him it was me who said it.
your right you cant be a childs friend.they need their parents more when they are teens...
you will do ok Lloyed.
my kids hated me to cause I was both mom and Dad.and I didnt let them have a inch.they said they couldnt do anything.I said what do you mean?like screw around like your other friends?get drunk,get raped?
I aint going to let you ruen your lives like your friends.and when ya have your own kids you will understand.tell then hate me all you dang well please. one day you will know why I did it!!!
stick to your guns Lloyed..
(((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))
God bless ya guy..
Lloyd...been going through something similar..if you notice...anyway, what is the age you are referring to, by any chance? Well, you may not be able to be their friend all the time and you may not be able to cut the cord in a complete way, cause you love them, but noone should be getting called every name under the sun. That is just wrong...you are a good man...do not let him do that to you or his mom (if he is). I don't care how insincere the apology may sound...he has to try to do it right, or out he stays. Some disrespect will just not go and be fed and clothed and a roof over the head at the same time. Nothing changes like that. I'll keep you in my prayers and please keep us in yours...its a bumpy ugly old road sometimes. God bless you.
Just passing through and wanted to say that I hope all is well with you and yours :-)
hiiiii cheated...how wonderful to connect on skype...hope you are having a great great day...stay safe my dear friend
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